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Safety Advice for Online Dating

Safety advice for online dating

We hope to make online dating enjoyable for all of our members and make every effort to provide a high level of privacy and security on our website. While the vast majority of people can be trusted, you must be aware of predators, scammers and online liars. There have been cases when online dating services have been used for wrong purposes. For instance, some users join the site but aren't looking for dating. Instead they may use your personal details to send unwanted advertisements or ask for money (which is known as a scam). To prevent yourself from undesirable contacts we have compiled a list of tips below to help you be on the safe side.

Trust your instincts

Our instincts are always trying to tell us something. Learn to trust them. Too many of us don't trust our instincts and ignore them, sometimes to our own detriment. If at any point you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection. Watch out for anyone who seems too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely via this dating site, and look for odd behaviour or inconsistencies in their profile or conversation or actions. The person at the other end may not be who or what they say they are.

Don't provide personal information too soon

Never give out your full name, home address, telephone number or any other sensitive personal information unless you know who you're dealing with. Armed with just your home phone number, a person can easily gain access to your income information, home address, and even learn the value of your home. This website works using an anonymous email and chat system where none of your online personal information is made available to other members. Send and receive emails via our onsite email system. Take your time getting to know people better and develop a trusting relationship.

Choose your online name carefully

If you are female and intend to spend your time online and you don't want to invite sexual innuendo or the virtual equivalent of a wolf whistle and an uninvited sexual reference, then choose a gender-neutral name. Of course, if your intention is to invite this attention from men, then choose a feminine name, but be prepared for an onslaught of advances. This tip doesn't apply to women only, though, as the web is full of very assertive women who will target names like this of the male variety. By choosing a gender-neutral identity online, you afford yourself the option of revealing your gender identity (or more) when you're comfortable doing so.

Be cautious

Never let your guard down. Some people take advantage of those looking for love and/or friendship by befriending people and trying to scam them. These scams range from illegal advertisements, redirection to other websites where you have to pay, or asking for credit card details or money. Be cautious of members whose profiles state they are from one country but the person tells you they are from another. Most commonly, the dating site female scammer will describe herself as "god fearing, real, honest, sincere, loving, genuine". Be aware that male scammers also exist. Generally they tell you that they have a great job and that they sometimes have to travel and stay away from their homes for long periods of time.

They all have a similar sad hard luck tale to tell which can be very emotional and easily gain sympathy and affection from the victim. Don't open your hearts and wallets to them. If you believe the person contacting you fits the descriptions listed above and looks too good to be true, ignore them and DO report them to us straight away using our scammer reporting option. Make sure you know how to save copies of your online dating conversations.

Use the "SEE ME, HEAR ME, MEET ME" technology

When you are ready to take things a step further, move onto our video and audio dating technologies, as they are perfect to clear up any concerns about a person's appearance, manner and tone. Use these tools to become more interactive with members; to have a virtual date!

By using video and audio it will become easier to see if there is a physical spark between you with no risk to your safety, as it can all still be done anonymously.

Use these innovative online dating communication tools in stages if you wish, firstly chatting via SMS text messaging and then using only audio to have an online phone call without having to give out your phone number. When you are then comfortable you can meet up.

Meet somewhere safe

When you're ready to meet someone, arrange to meet in a busy, well-lit public place. Let someone know where you are going, how you are getting there, when you are expected to arrive and when you are expected home. Tell them where you are at regular intervals during your date. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when there will be plenty of people around and, when the date is over, leave on your own.

On your date drink responsibly and keep your wits about you. If you plan to meet somewhere you haven't been before do your research and arrange your own travel and accommodation. If you feel uncomfortable at any point make sure you have a back up plan to use.

Enjoy your first date and have fun!

Please don't let this put you off. We hope you will find the man or lady of your dreams and remain safe and happy throughout your life!